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Creating a Dharma Will with Venerable Khando (in person & online)

9:30 am Saturday, April 13, 2024

Creating a Dharma Will with Venerable Khando

Saturday April 13th, 9:30am - 12:30pm

Most of us who have studied Buddhist teachings for any length of time have heard a great deal about death. It can be summed up in the simple statement:

I'm going to die, that's for sure.

As we go through our days doing our best to have a peaceful and content mind, we are both living well and preparing for death. When death arrives, the most important thing is to have a peaceful mind, and how we live very much influences how we die.

How do we prepare for the inevitable? The prayers and practices that sustain us in our everyday lives can also sustain us at the time of death, but if illness or mental incapacity comes before death, we might no longer be able to study, pray and meditate, and do the practices that have cultivated a peaceful mindstream. Having those practices available to us can help ease the transition from this life to the next.

Preparing for death includes preparing those around us who wish to support us - our spiritual community - to help us through the transition. A Dharma Will is a way of making clear to ourselves and others what will help us have a peaceful mind when we are sick, dying or have died.

In a followup to Venerable Amy Miller's workshop on preparing for death spiritually, Venerable Khando will walk us through what we need to know about creating a Dharma Will, which lays out our wishes for support before, during and after our deaths. Kadampa Center has an online Dharma Will form that we will be using.  

We encourage you to bring your own devices - phone, tablet or laptop - so you can follow along during the workshop.

In this morning workshop, we will learn about the dying process and the elements of a Dharma Will, and then prepare our own documents that lay out our wishes and needs.

We will have an outline that we can use as a guide to fill in our personal information. By doing this in a group, we can receive and offer support to all of us within the group.  See below for links to a variety of resources, as well as to Kadampa Center's online Dharma Will form. 

HOW TO ATTEND

  • In person at Kadampa Center

  • Join via Zoom HERE

  • Watch via livestream on YouTube HERE

RESOURCES

Recommended Books

The Joy of Living and Dying in Peace. His Holiness The Dalai Lama. 1997

The Following are by Lama Zopa Rinpoche

Books by Other Authors

Dharma Will

Kadampa Center Dharma Will Venerable Khando will review how to fill out this online Dharma Will form.  Your responses will be stored where our sangha and spiritual program coordinators can access it, and will also be emailed to you automatically so you can print it and have it easily available. 

Website links

Amitabha Hospice Service  (Located in New Zealand) This site provides helpful resources on how to talk about death, the needs of the dying, how to listen, a Buddhist death, and more.

Transitions Life Care  (Located in Raleigh)  Information about palliative care, hospice care, support for caregivers and more. 

The Death Process YouTube video with Khandro Kunzang

Advance Care Planning Resources:

Being Mortal video

The Conversation Project

Five Wishes Form

Go WIsh cards

Go Wish cards alternate link

How to Select Your Health Care Proxy

North Carolina Living Will form

North Carolina Health Care Power of Attorney

Venerable Thubten Chodron website This link opens to a list of audio recordings on death and dying by both Venerable Chodron and Venrable Sangye Khadro

Resources to Download

Click here to access a list of files you can download

Location at Kadampa Center: 
Gompa